Hi there! This is part two of my “Girls thinking about life” series. (See part one HERE) This one is great for guys, too, but still written for the female perspective. 😉
On the one hand it sounds like I’m talking about two different topics. (Marriage and modesty.) But it seems they are so intertwined (or should be?) that it makes sense to me to discuss them together.
Marriage is a beautiful thing. Our society is trying (and largely succeeding) to degrade the entire concept. (See my post about the trans-sexual concept here) But I think, in a way, once you establish a good, pure relationship with your spouse, having that in our society is not only amazing, but even more special than if a pure relationship were the norm.
The Bible makes it clear: Yhwh values marriage. I mean, He invented it! (Genesis 1 & 2) And He explained who it involves;
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
“A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;”
Please see Leviticus 20, Genesis 20:3, 24:67, & 39, Titus 1:6
Funny side note- some guys were forty when they married! Gen 25:20 & 26:34
With Genesis 16:3 and 29:25, 30 we see the problem polygamy brings.
But that’s another story. See also Matt. 5:27-32
Genesis 24- The Father should have a part in the choosing of a groom. This is not always possible, but it should be taken into consideration if nothing else.
Genesis 28:1 We should marry within our belief system.
———————————-Marriage represents our relationship with Yah——————————-
The incredible thing is, Yhwh has betrothed us!
See also Isaiah 62, Revelation 19:7, 21:2 & 9 (Or just search “bride” and betroth”!) To the upper right, do you see that movie called “Kosher halftime show”? The first song, V’erastich, is quoting Hosea 2:19 & 20! Very cool.
Is this great or what? (Will we say “Yes!!” to Him?)
Well, I think that’s enough Scripture for you to look up. There is more information in the Bible on the subject if you wish to find it.
Indeed, marriage is beautiful. It was a wonderful experience for me to see the above wedding of my friends. The ceremony (And the whole evening!) was a mixture of Jewish and “christian” traditions. They had the Chuppa, the walk down the aisle, and the glass for the groom to break… It was awesome.
Coming from a back-ground where dancing and even raising your hands in church was unacceptable, all of the wonderful Hebrew dances were amazing! (I had already found that the Bible approves (& I think I can safely say encourages) dancing. Psalm 149:3 & 150:4)
See this video by you-tuber Meir Kay of his sister’s totally-Jewish wedding. It is beautiful, and reminds me of the wedding of my friends! (See pic. above)
Well, I shall move on to my second part- Modesty. This is largely covered in my post “Part 1 of Girls thinking about life series (w’ added content)” which is about, naturally, modesty. ;D
I just want to re-state that when a single girl is modest, she is helping young men around her stay pure, as well as simply guarding her beauty/body to be shown only to her future-husband. Also, a man who becomes interested in her will more likely be attracted to her because of who she is inside rather than what she looks like. He may also respect her for her modesty. This is largely why it ties into marriage.
Something I am still learning is this: modesty isn’t just clothes and external things. Rather I think it includes your heart’s state, and the way you carry yourself. If you wear a dress that touches the ground but yet flirt with every guy that comes by, what have you accomplished?
There are different ‘levels’ of modesty, with extremes. Just like most anything.
Some girls feel fine in a bikini. Others never let a hair or inch of leg show. (See video “Victoria and Abdul”, where Abduls’ wife was completely covered except for her hands- due their religion.) We are all in different stages, and hold our own beliefs. This is heathy. (Although I personally dislike the bikini scenario.) The lady in the video below is more to the no-hair-show side of things. I think it’s nice, although I’m not so sure of me going there..at least not yet. 🙂
I think a woman’s modesty should be discussed with her husband, if she is married. And either way, she should talk to her Heavenly (and maybe earthly) Dad about it. I feel it is ultimatly up to her, Yhwh and “her guy”.
PTP(Point to Ponder):
Caption: Who keepeth her beauty for her husband? (Girl on left or girl on right?)
I wish on all of you a wondrous relationship with your spouse, and an even better one with Yah. (Click for fun video.)
Shalom & Simcha chaim! (Peace and Happy life!-Hebrew)