Although an oxi-moron, we all know the bitter truth- hurt people many times hurt other people… and it’s no different inside church walls. Even those professing to be ‘Born-again’ are found fighting others, even other believers. Politics get ugly. Toes are stepped on. You name it.
Does it have to be this way? In a way, yes. We’re human, even after we are truly saved. In 1 Corinthians 1:6-8, Paul addressed the congregation, discussing how they were suing each-other. So even in life way back when, in the apostles’ time, they didn’t always get along- things didn’t always go smoothly among the brethren.
But does it really have to be like it is now? The backbiting, the gossip, the unnecessary hurt? I would say resoundingly, “No”.
But sometimes it is like it is, no stopping or denying it. What do we do? Build brick walls? Wail and whimper our woes to all the world? How do we rest in Yah’s (God’s) perfect shalom (peace) when we’re so tore up? Rejections happen. Where do we turn?
We turn to Yah. That’s always the answer, isn’t it? He’s what this is all about in the first place, right? We absolutely must put our trust in Him, our protective Father. We must remember that what He says is true- of Himself, others, and us.
People can be wrong. People can be untrustworthy. People can be confusing. People can lack forgiveness. People can be rude. People can be sassy. People can be mean.
But Yah? No. None of that. He’s the ultimate picture of love. Yah is trustworthy -always. Yah is full of grace -always. Yah is full of forgiveness -always. Yah wants what’s best for us (even when it’s hard) -always.
We can move on. We do not need to add to everyone’s pain. No more gossip from us. Why add to the problem guys?
Now, I do highly encourage that you strengthen the bonds that remain. You may have left a Church, for any number of reasons, but still have friends back there. If they are safe and supportive, by all means, cling to that. Call them. Support each-other. Don’t leave ’em all hangin’!
So, trust Yah. Live as His child. Move on in your life, but learn from the past what you can. Carry on.
Shalom for now,