Being real is one of those things that is so simple, it’s hard for us to comprehend at first. It’s also a challenge to us; to our lifestyle and how we think. So we may try to avoid the thought.
I’ve met a few out-going real people. Some characteristics stand out. They accept you, but are willing to let you know if their stance is different. They respect you and themselves. One big thing is that being truly real can be the act of trying to tell, believe and be truthful. And to be yourself.
Real people are willing to point out your gross inconsistencies -including spiritually- in a simple and kind way. Also, although it may make you feel uncomfortable, if the time is right, you yearn for their prescence. Real people don’t fault-find. They are down-to-earth. They build you up by showing your shortcomings (Perhaps accidentally, even by just being themselves), and show you a better way.
Another thing about real people is that they are them; everywhere. If they are a Messianic Jew, for example, and are also a “real” person, they will share their beliefs. When out shopping, on Facebook, etc. Their values follow them everywhere. But yet they realize that some things they believe could be wrong. They aren’t proud.
Whether you agree or disagree with them, they stand by their beliefs. And they respect yours. They may even consider yours; they want to improve themselves and believe the truth. But they do not change their story due to who they are with; not simply due to someones else’s out-look on life.
I have a hunch that it’s not easy to become a real person, but that once you are one, it is beautiful, freeing, and empowering.
Our Saviour Yahusha is a good example of a real person. He cared for everyone, and payed attention to where they were at. But He also “Cut to the heart”. He didn’t beat around the bush (unless to further His point), and He also talked heart-to-heart. If He saw problems and inconsistencies, He addressed them. In a wise manner; appropriately. But even if it was uncomfortable for those around Him.
No matter what company He found Himself in, He was Himself.
I know Paul says he was a Jew to the Jews etc (1Co 9:20,“And unto the Jews I became as a Jew, that I might gain the Jews; to them that are under the law, as under the law, that I might gain them that are under the law;”) Ok, great. But he (Paul) didn’t throw out everything he believed to suite them, did he?
Yahusha the Messiah treated everyone the same (although with His ministry on earth He focused on the Israelites.). Whether Rich, Poor, Publican or Sanhedrin. (Although I actually think He enjoyed the company of Publicans more that the Sanhedrin – they were “Real People” compared the Rabbis.)
To all, He (lovingly) pointed out errors. That, I believe, is part of being a true friend! It may sound harsh, but it is -through the truth- bettering their lives. (Don’t get me wrong- there is a time and a place.)
You don’t need to be in someone’s company very long to pick up on whether or not they are real. And you don’t have to agree with them to appreciate them.
I do not feel I am real. Well, at least not like I want to be. Like Yahusha is/was. Or like many folks out there are.
Real is transparent
However, I enjoy the prescence of real people. Sometimes I crave it. Partly because it’s simply enjoyable, and partly because you largely become like those you hang out with.
Interestingly, Revelation talks about some people obeying the beast in their hand OR head. The head part means you agree and follow, while hand simply means you follow. So the beast doesn’t care if you’re real, it just wants you to “act the part”.
Also, as I said, real people “Cut to the heart”. And so I appreciate it when real people ask me questions about myself I hardly dare think about otherwise. They actually don’t even have to ask you per se. Sometimes simply the way they talk and act helps you realize things!
Looking to our Saviour and to our Father more (& more) waters our own attitudes, thoughts, and way of life so as we become real, more and more.
Now, that’s what I want. It’s uncomfortatble, at least at times; Sure. It also takes time. Just like every good thing seems to.
And just like every good thing, it’s worth it.
Will you join me in becoming real, more & more?
P.S. I do hope that I am more of a real person than I realize. But no matter how “real” I am, I know I have room to grow.
Shalom & Yesh Tikvah,